As we approach the one week mark of Rosie living with us, I think we are all very pleasantly surprised how well things are going.
There are a few things I would have done differently. First, despite her insistence, I would not have allowed her to pack her own things. Instead of using boxes, she packed EVERYTHING (and I do mean everything) into doubled up paper shopping bags. In itself that was not a problem but instructions to toss those things no longer needed because of room constraints were not followed. Two days before the actual move, I checked on her progress. Despite dozens of filled paper bags, her clothes and bathroom cabinet content weren’t even touched yet. My sister and I completed the packing on Saturday and got everything ready for the movers on Sunday. All in all, it was a quick and easy move.
One of the things that’s helping me keep things in perspective these days is an article I read last year about mothers and the children that take of them. When dealing with a parent with failing or diminishing memory issues, understand that the parent you grew up with is no longer with you. The parent you have now is a different person and must be considered and treated as such. If you get frustrated because your parent can not longer do the things they used to do, or they no longer act the way they used to act, you will frustrate yourself and your parent. Interact with them as they are now and enjoy them as the people they’ve evolved into. You will both be much happier with your interactions.